I was listening to my favorite book, “Excuse me your life is waiting,” by Lynne Grabhorn where she describes how to shift your thinking from what you don’t want towards what you want.
You see, I’ve listened to this tape dozens of times in the past two years so the content is nothing new. But on this day I finally got it.
Here’s what I learned.
For the past five years I’ve been successfully focusing on what I don’t want:
I don’t want to live in a cold climate city.
I don’t want to do stressful work.
I don’t want to spend only a few minutes a day on growing my coaching business.
You get the point.
Your life, just like mine, is a reflection of all of your dominant thoughts and mine included a whole lot of things I didn’t want.
You see don’t wants are quite sneaky. They can often look like wants but they’re filled with negative phrases or thoughts that keep you right where you don’t want to be. Plus they leave you feeling sad and quite confused. Here are a few examples of my favorite don’t wants masquerading as wants:
I want to live someplace that doesn’t have cold winters.
Where’s my focus?
Living in cold weather.
Here’s another one.
I don’t want to work in a stressful environment.
My focus is squarely on working in a stressful environment.
Once I figured out I was focusing on don’t wants I did a little house cleaning.
I cleaned up those statements because my intention is to focus all of my attention on thinking and feeling happe thoughts. This is what I came up with:
I want to live in a tropical location where I can enjoy beautiful weather all year round.
I want to do work that feels like play.
The main difference is that the last two statements produce a huge smile and a calm spirit. I feel happe and relaxed instead of angry and stressed.
If your life is anything but ideal, take some time today to see where you’re focusing your thoughts and actions.
Then do something about it.
You’re the only one who can shift your focus and your thoughts towards living a happier life.
What can you do today to shift your focus?